Genuinely happy people don’t just sit around being contented. They make things happen. They set and reach goals, and control their thoughts, feelings, and habits. If we want to experience love, peace, contentment, optimism and joy, we have to give up our bad, limiting habits.
We are so used to doing certain things that we don’t notice, or realize the damage these bad habits are sometimes causing to our health, to our relationships, and ultimately, to our own happiness. We just have to be mindful and acknowledge our limiting habits, and then work on breaking them. It takes time, practice, and self-control, but the reward is greater than the effort. When we stop doing the wrong things, we make more room for the things that really make us happy.
We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.
Below you will find a list with bad, limiting habits you should give up if you want to move forward and live a happy life:
- Postponing your happiness.
- Using your phone/computer in bed.
- Dwelling on the past.
- Taking for granted all the people that love and appreciate you.
- Feeling guilty. Give yourself a break.
- Drinking too much.
- Checking your phone during a conversation or during lunch/dinner.
- Saying yes to things that don’t support your goals.
- Being around toxic people.
- The need to control everything.
- Not making time for the people you love.
- Anger and grudges.
- Trying to be perfect.
- Multitasking – be fully present and committed to one task.
- Missing sunrises and sunsets.
- Ignoring your education.
- Trying to change the people around you.
- Wasting time.
- Trying to be someone else.
- Being afraid to be vulnerable.
- Focussing on the negative.
- Comparing yourself to others.
- Living an unhealthy lifestyle.
- Making excuses for your weaknesses and failures, and blaming others.
- Being too hard on yourself.
- Staying at the job you hate.
- Your need to be liked by everyone.
- Trying to please everyone.
- Overthinking simple things.
- Avoiding change.
Don’t get in the way of your own happiness. Take small steps, be aware of your feelings and reactions, and then do something every day to change them. Focus on one bad habit each month and challenge yourself to get rid of it. Trust that the smartest way to experience joy and contentment is to stop doing the things that have been holding you back.
What habits would you like to give up? Please share your thoughts in the comments below!
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