We are daily bombarded with news, text messages, email, and phone calls. We keep in touch using Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, and we never miss an update. We envy our friends for their perfect lives, and we pick up the stress from the ones around us. We are always in a rush, constantly striving to accomplish more and become more productive. We do everything faster, we sleep less and work more, and our to-do list seems as if it has no end. It’s nothing wrong with that, but from time to time, we have to allow ourselves to step back, disconnect, and learn to enjoy solitude.
So many people are terrified of being alone because they often time tend to associate solitude with loneliness, sadness, or depression. Being alone feels like a problem that needs to be resolved.
But you need time alone to understand your own value and to discover your strength. It is the only way to know yourself better, to accept, and value yourself for what you really are. From time to time, allow yourself the luxury of thinking about just one thing at the time.
Learn to use your time alone to enjoy your own company. Turn off your phone and eliminate distractions. Relax. Put some music on. Read, journal, pray, meditate, or just chill out. Be comfortable with who you are and what you are.
Being solitary is being alone well: being alone luxuriously immersed in doings of your own choice, aware of the fullness of your own presence rather than of the absence of others. Because solitude is an achievement.
This is what happens when you embrace solitude:
You relax. Being alone in today’s crazy life is just a great chance to relax. Allow yourself at least 10 minutes of solitude and quietness, and let your mind and your body de-stress and relax. Give your brain the chance to unwind and rest. It’s one of the most nourishing and refreshing gifts you can give to yourself.
You connect with yourself. When you take time to be by yourself, you have the chance to connect with yourself at a deeper level, think clearly, and find your own voice. You allow yourself to balance the positive and negative aspects of your life and to get a deeper insight into what really makes you happy. When you are alone, you can ask questions and find effective solutions for your problems.
You improve your relationships. Solitude can improve the quality of your relationships with others. Find out what you need and what you want from yourself and from the people in your life, and then make better choices about who you want to spend your time with and who you want to be around.
You become more creative and more productive. In solitude, you find time to engage in deep thought, which helps to improve focus and productivity. That makes you more open to new ideas and more creative, allowing inspiration to flow. When you eliminate any distraction and interruption, you are able to focus and get more work done in a shorter amount of time.
You plan for the future and set goals. Check-in with yourself and your desires and write down your goals. Revisit and evaluate old goals and, if they don’t represent you anymore, set new goals and start pursuing new dreams. Make peace with yourself and with life’s many changes.
You develop gratitude and a greater sense of awareness. Solitude helps you appreciate the smallest things that get lost in the routine and rowdiness of daily life.
Here are a few tips on how to find more time for yourself:
- Turn off your phone and TV
- Wake up early in the morning and take advantage of the quiet time when everybody else still sleeps
- Schedule time alone
- Take a long bath
- Enjoy outdoors
Solitude reminds us of what is essential to our inner self. It gives us the chance to understand ourselves better, to start seeing the things we’ve missed, to be more balanced, and to become the greatest companions we can be.
Do you like being alone from time to time? Do you, sometimes, seek out solitude?
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